Empowering young men: The importance of Ulwaluko preparation

A gathering at the Ikhwezi Community Centre in Gugulethu saw men and women come together, sharing wisdom, guidance, and encouragement, to ensure that boys preparing to undergo the traditional initiation ritual of ulwaluko this summer are fully equipped and compliant with all its requirements.

Hosted on Friday, October 3, the event was organised by the Somagwaza Institute and brought together various non-governmental organisations (NGOs) that shared valuable insights to help the boys prepare mentally and holistically before their journey to the mountain. 

Ulwaluko is a traditional right of passage into manhood involving circumcision and a period of seclusion and teaching responsibility, hard work, and their role in their communities.

Speakers from different organisations urged the boys to take their transformation seriously. Upon returning as amadoda (men), they must learn to respect themselves, their parents, women, and the broader community.

They were also reminded that manhood comes with responsibility: to pursue education or employment, establish a household, and live with integrity.

Somagwaza founder and ingcibi (traditional surgeon) Sikelela Zokuza warned the boys to stay away from drugs before undergoing the initiation, as such choices can have serious consequences. 

Mr Zokuza said the organisation was committed to assisting over-aged boys whose families cannot afford initiation costs. However, he said that over-aged boys must also show respect and love for the community and those who contribute to their journey. “We are not an initiation forum but an organisation that wants to help those in need. These over-aged boys are often ridiculed and laughed at by young men. That is why we have taken it upon ourselves to help them.

"We understand that they did not create their plight. But we want them to be real men when they return. We expect them to seek employment, have a home, and take responsibility. We will continue to assist poor families,” he assured.

The boys came from various metro areas, including Khayelitsha and Mfuleni.

Traditionally, women do not speak about issues relating to ulwaluko, but with changing times, they have partaken in the dialogue. 

Joy Mkhunqwane spoke to the young men about mental health issues, emphasising the importance of making the right decisions in life. “We were raised in an environment where young people do not question seniors. But I have to change this mindset. They need to ask questions and make decisions so they will not blame themselves later.

"My talk with them focused on mental health. There is a lot happening to these boys. Those who engage in drugs and robbery need to be aware of the consequences,” she said.

The boys were also given a chance to engage with the speakers. 

The event concluded with a motivational address by former gangster turned businessman, author, and motivational speaker, Mncedisi Mdingi, who shared his journey of transformation. Mr Mdingi shared his mistakes as a young man and encouraged the boys to refrain from a life of crime, as crime does not pay.

Other organisations that took part in motivating and empowering the boys were Rebuilding and Life Skills Training Centre, an NPO that works with ex-offenders and people with the challenges of substance abuse, and Oman Leadership Movement.